Many people don't want the cold factual truth because it will leave their emotional needs unsatisfied.
Truth has always been an unpopular thing. However if you were to ask people if they prefer living in a lukewarm comfortable lie or know the hard cold truth, they will state firmly that it is the truth that they want.
But that happens in theory most of the time. Why? Because people want to believe about themselves they are fair-minded, neutral and objective persons because the most valued quality by society is being a good person. Anything contradicting that will trigger wounds and the shame based self concept acts out.
Be that as it may, asserting you want the truth and actually being open to truth are two entirely different things
Saying we are on the truths side - just for the sake of it - is food for our ego. It helps us see ourselves as good human beings. What we dont expect and don't know is that a lot of the times the truth has a way of ripping the band aid off of an old wound, putting you in a reactionary state. Truth in and of itself does not enable or cater to any traumas and emotional emptiness that you may carry unconsciously. It just is. Nonetheless, it manages to dismantle many realities and inner worlds. That's why upon hearing a cold factual truth the knee jerk reaction of 90% of the people is to slip into deep denial. Because it contradicts and stands against everything they knew was right and real.
The truth is very unpopular not because it hurts people, but because it hurts and invalidates the idea that people hold about themselves.
People use ideas and beliefs as a band aid over their fears and wounds, and they maim and distort the truth to fit into their narrative of who they think they are as people. We are hardwired from early age to care about society's principles and what society says is acceptable or not, because we understand that being ourselves fully and transparently will have deep and major consequences like isolation and being cast off. This is why through deeply visceral programming and conditioning since childhood, we lose sight of our personal truth that is being buried under a hefty pile of false convictions that make up or false self that we so dearly hold on to.
Bottom line: if cold factual truth, whatever that is, hurts your feelings, you have to look at the feelings themselves that need to be protected. What is underneath them is the real wound...
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