..And that's OK!
Society has made wrong and unacceptable how we feel and how we behave in a lot of ways. That is why validating the feelings that we know cannot be validated as they are will sound crazy and too far out there to you.
What I am about to tell you is probably going to trigger you. And you will probably have a ton of valid points as to why the following statements cannot be true and how they are wrong. However, they don't need to be true in general for them to be true to you specifically, IF you are needing to hear these statements.
If you are at a point in your life where nothingness is all there is, just know that feeling shame for it or feeling guilty for being where you are will only add to the resistance you have built against your present situation. You feel shame because you feel incapable of moving forward and incapable of getting yourself unstuck. But before you become able to do anything, first you need to learn it is not wrong to not be able for now and it is ok to know nothingness as it is.
This then is for you:
It's ok to do nothing when you feel exhausted or don't know what to do, until you are able to do it.
It's ok to be nothing until you discover who you are and you are able to be. Selfhood is not fixed and your soul doesn't need societal selfhood anyway. Allow yourself to be nothing until you discover your truth.
It's ok to want nothing when you don't want anything and it's ok to want nothing when you don't know what you want.
It's ok to feel nothing if you literally can't feel anything anymore. Don't take it like something needs to be fixed about you. Feeling nothing can be the starting point to ignite your innate aliveness.
But unless you make it ok to be where you are emotionally and physically and mentally and spiritually, you cannot grow. Not truly. You cannot be, not truly. You cannot evolve and you cannot reach your authenticity unless you admit you're inauthentic. This is something terribly important that our society must understand and our systems need to make space for people to be different and at different stages in their lives and evolution. We don't all have to be at the same time at the same level.
The individual too needs to slowly acclimatize to the idea that one size does NOT have to fit all and THAT IS OK! We have to stop denying what is real about us, especially when that realness implies things that are labeled as NOT ok to be/have/feel etc.
Dropping the heavy veil of denial is probably the most excruciating thing a person who has just started on their spiritual and self awareness journey has to do. It might feel like tearing your limbs apart with no anesthetics.
Validating whatever you feel and wherever you are right now is the most beautiful and self loving thing you can do for yourself. Self validation is on the other side of denial. We need reality as it is, not as our subconscious stories tell us it should be.
Nothing in and of itself is not wrong. Society pushes the need to always be something and always be something better, not allowing us to hold space for ourselves when we literally cannot be anything other than nothing. Healing ourselves is understanding that there is no wrong place to be in your life. If it hurts you to be where you are in your life right now, that just means that where you are is not where you want to be. That does not make it wrong, just not in alignment with you...
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