Do you find yourself believing that you don't do enough of what you’re supposed to do?
The good news is: the best that you can do in any given situation is all that you will ever do! Sounds unbelievable?
You always do the best that you can do. That sounds pretty vague. But it's actually not. What is the best one can do? Whatever they do in the moment, not more. Why? Because if it hadn't been the best and they could have truly done something more and better, they would have done it. Simple. Your mind saying that you're not doing enough is just the limiting belief that you need to become aware of and conquer through self awareness practices.
When you look back at a situation you wish you had done differently, you always do it from a higher and more empowered perspective, you do it AFTER you have learned/understood that which you have not known and grasped back then. And so now, when you feel bad or guilty for not having done enough, you are judging yourself unfairly. If you had the information you have now you surely would have done things differently in that past situation that you're thinking about. But you did not have it, did you. Because if you did, you would have done better! And this amounts to the realisation that you always do the best that you possibly can with what you had available at that moment. Not less. Even if on the spot let's say that you know that you could do better, but you choose the lesser option. You do that because of something else that has priority in the moment. Your subconscious prioritizes things for you.
Let’s take my example. I was a victim of physical abuse. Anytime my ex would beat me, I would hear a voice inside me - that I completely ignored for the duration of my relationship, which was 8 years - that was faintly telling me I could do better. Yet I did not choose better. I did not choose to get myself out of that situation that was obviously hurting me. Why. Because I wasn't ready to. My subconscious had different priorities, that's why. Priorities I was not consciously aware of. Priorities like fear of loneliness (as I have abandonment trauma and not being alone is a matter of survival for someone with this wound), fear of having to lose everything and start over etc. So I unconsciously chose to dismiss the reality and overlay a fantasy explanation and justification for what was going on simply because I was in denial and coping like this was the best I could do at that time with the level of awarenss and consciousness that I was at. After my spiritual awakening, I felt guily looking back, wondering why did I not see the grim reality, why did I keep choosing to stay in that abusive relationship. And it took me a while to understand that all unfolded according to a higher plan and purpose, I could not have escaped it earlier, I escaped my abusive relationship at the right time for me. You see I actually did the best I could with the consciousness and the awareness I had at that time.
This is also one of the reasons why our healing process is stunned. It's because we think that we are not doing enough, that we're not healing fast enough. Yet what we are doing it is the best that we can. Everyday, one baby step is enough to make a huge difference in the grand picture of your life and not just your life, your entire universe. When you understand that it is never not enough whatever it is you are doing, you will start having more compassion towards yourself and the world as well and you start surrendering to the real healing.
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