Everyone says they're committed to healing when they start their journey. But that's not true. Well, not entirely, anyway.
Commitment is probably one of the most misunderstood concepts.
And this is something I used to misunderstand too in the beginning of my spiritual and healing journey.
So here it goes: just because you want something (or you think you want it) it does not mean you are also committed to it.
So when I say that commitment is not actually commitment for too many of us, I'm not saying tht people are lying when they say they're committed to seeing their desire coming true. I'm saying that one of people's biggest mistakes that they unknowingly make is that they treat their selfhood as a united or unified self (and hence any choices that come from within as a choice/decision coming from one unified place). Which is not the case. We are all a system of aspects of consciousness that have split from the core consciousness and every part or aspect has different wants, needs, agendas and intentions and as long as you haven't asked each and every aspect of they're on-board with the commitment to heal, you can't actually say that you truly want to heal.
The level of someone's commitment does not become transparent until obstacles, challenges, hindrances and resistance arise to try to prevent you from getting to where you think you want to be.
Unless you have examined, questioned, explored a
nd deeply understood the reason why you want what you want and whether all parts within you are on board and not against you going after what you want, then you can say that it's a solid, actual and true desire. Why. Because when you know why you want what you want and have dove deep into the mechanics and the core of the grounds for this goal or dream or desire and you have full support of your entire self, not just aspects of it, nothing can stop you. That's when commitment comes easy, it's flowing and natural.
But very few people question their desires, their needs, whatever asks of them to commit.
Very few understand that commitment is not
supposed to be a self whipping, self punishing thing that you have to grapple to hold onto.
So what to do when commitment comes hard for you? Here are the 2 steps to take that I learned myself on my path:
1. So we know now that commitment, just like consistency, just like compassion, just like curiosity, have to come naturally. If you feel any resistance, you need to stop and turn towards the thing that's opposing your commitment. Don't force yourself upon it. Get curious about it. Ask it why it resists commitment, what does it believe its protecting you from when it's resisting committing? And what needs it has that you can meet?
2. Have a conversation with this opposing aspect and try to best to show it how it will also benefit by having this commitment and how it is actually a part of the same consciousness as you. When it reveals a need or a fear, make sure to find ways to make it feel safe and meet its needs.
This process may take a while and you may need to do this multiple times. But don't give up. If having your desire come true, whatever that desire is, is something you truly and absolutely want to have happen, the parts of your consciousness that resist it and resists the commitment it takes to get you there will eventually come around once it will start to understand the importance of having this desire becoming reality
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